Our Story
COMING SOON! :)
Daniel i Patrycja
We're getting married!
2027
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The Wedding
Ceremony
St. Mary Of The Assumption Parish & Shrine
103 W. 7th St. Oswego, NY, 13126
July 10th, 2027 @ 1:00pm
Reception
Fulton Polish Home Main Hall
153 W. 1st St. South Fulton, NY, 13069
July 10th, 2027, Cocktail Hour Starting @ 3:30pm
Food provided by BLANK
Entertainment provided by DJ Vox Polonia
Ceremony Details
Marriage Rite & Nuptial Mass
St. Mary's is an apostolate of the Institute of Christ the King Sovereign Priest, where the primary form of the liturgy is the Extraordinary Form or the Traditional Latin Mass. If you are someone who is new to it, here is what to expect at a glance:
- Duration: The Marriage Rite is followed by a full Nuptial Mass, about 2 hours total (ending ~3pm).
- Language: The majority of the ceremony/Mass will be in Latin, with parts such as the Sermon/Homily in English.
- Following Along: Programs will be provided to help with knowing when to sit/stand/kneel, along with English translations. Feel free to also just follow those around you!
- Communion: For Catholics who are properly disposed, received kneeling at the altar rail and on the tongue. Otherwise, feel free to approach and cross your arms over your chest to receive a blessing.
- Music: The Nuptial Mass will be a High Mass — meaning that pretty much everything is sung and/or chanted! The majority of music will be in the form of Gregorian Chant.
- Dress: The Mass is meant to be reverent toward our Lord, so modest clothing is requested. Many men choose to wear suits, and many women choose to veil.
- Extra Resources: For those interested, there is a more in depth Latin Mass guide here, which explains the mass in more detail! Another good read here!
Schedule
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1:00 pm
Marriage Rite & Nuptial Mass
St. Mary of the Assumption, Oswego
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~3:00 pm
Mass Ends
Check into accommodation (if any), then head to the Fulton Polish Home
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3:30 pm
Cocktail Hour
At the Fulton Polish Home — light hors d'oeuvres will be served and the bar will be open.
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4:30 pm
Grand Entrance/Introductions
Introductions of newlyweds, wedding party, chleb i sól (bread & salt), & toast.
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~4:45 pm
Dinner
Catering provided by BLANK, available food here.
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6:00 pm
First Dance & Parent Dances
Newlywed first dance, and individual dances with parents.
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6:15 pm
Dancing
Music by DJ Vox Polonia — mix of Polish and American music.
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8:30 pm
Cake Cutting
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9:00 pm
Oczepiny
Various wedding games, run by MC.
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9:30 pm
More Dancing!
More dancing follows the games, and a round of "late" night snacks served.
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11:30 pm
Last Dance & Send-Off
One last song is played and the newlyweds are sent off!
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12:00 am
Hall Closes
Dress
✟ As the ceremony is a Traditional Latin Mass, we kindly request that guests dress modestly for church: shoulders covered (a shawl or cardigan is perfectly fine), hemlines at or below the knee, and no low necklines. Gentlemen, suits or jackets and ties are encouraged.
✟ Chapel veils are welcome but entirely optional.
✟ The wedding will be in mid July, so dress light where you can. You are fully welcome to shed the jacket or shawl at the reception and get comfortable for a night of dancing!
* We kindly ask that guests refrain from wearing white or other similar light colors *
Registry/Gifts
Your presence at our wedding is the greatest gift we could ask for! If you would like to honor us with a gift, we would be most grateful for a contribution toward our honeymoon. For this reason, a card box will be available for envelopes at the reception.
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Travel & Accommodations
TBD → We are going to see about blocking off some rooms and discounted rates. Once we square this information away it will appear here. If you signed up for text message notification you will get one when it is posted. This wedding is VERY DIY so please bear with us! :)
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FAQ
When should I arrive?
We suggest arriving around 15-30 minutes early as the ceremony/Mass is very likely to start on time. Allowing time to find a seat, use the restroom, etc. will ensure that you are settled by the time everything starts!
Where do I park?
The church has a parking lot, which can hold about 50 cars...otherwise there is copious street parking on the roads surrounding the church. As for the Polish Home, there is a parking lot that is a bit larger than the one at the church which should be big enough for everyone to park!
What do I do between the ceremony and reception?
That depends on what your plans are following the reception: if you are staying in a hotel nearby, then feel free to go check in prior to heading to the Polish Home if you'd like which is about 20 minutes away (you'll still have plenty of time to enjoy the cocktail hour). If you are planning on heading home after the reception, then feel free to head right to the venue. There will be snacks and beverages available, and you can mingle while the wedding party is busy having photos taken and making their way to the reception.
Are children invited?
Absolutely! We welcome all the little ones to both the ceremony and reception! If during the ceremony they get fussy, do not worry about it, we are simply happy they are there too!
Can I bring a plus-one?
If there is one listed on your invitation, definitely! If not, feel free to contact us and we will gladly see whether or not we can accommodate more people.
What is the bar situation?
The bar will be an open bar, and will be staffed all night long — so feel free to have a drink, or two, or a few, and get out on the dance floor!!
Do I need to be Catholic to attend the ceremony?
Absolutely not, all are welcome to attend no matter what! Simply refrain from receiving Communion or go up for a blessing when the time comes.
Can I take pictures?
During the ceremony we request that individual pictures be kept to a minimum to maintain the reverence of the Mass and Marriage Rite. During the reception → Absolutely! — We will not be having an official photographer/videographer for the reception, but will instead have a QR code that guests can scan to upload pictures & videos throughout the night!
Will there be air-conditioning?
At the church, unfortunately no since the building itself is over 100 years old. However, there are numerous fans pointed into the pews, which help to keep it cool. At the Polish Home, yes there will be air-conditioning!
Are the venues accessible?
Yes! The church has a ramp at the front entrance, and the Polish Home has a ramp leading to the bar, through which guests can access the main reception hall.
What do I do if I have a dietary restriction?
Please note it on your RSVP form and we will accommodate for it.
What Polish traditions should I know about?
Our reception will include a few Polish wedding traditions. No experience needed, just join in!
- Powitanie Chlebem i Solą (Welcome with Bread & Salt): When we arrive at the reception, our families will greet us with bread and salt. The bread represents the wish that we will never go hungry, and the salt reminds us that life will have its hardships, which we will learn to face together.
- Vodka & Water Shot: Following the bread and salt, we will also be given one shot glass each: one will contain vodka, the other water. We will both drink, and then smash the glasses. The person who gets vodka is predicted to "wear the pants" in the marriage.
- Oczepiny: Traditionally, this was the time of the wedding where the bride's veil was removed as a symbol of her becoming a wife. In modern times, this part of the wedding is for some fun wedding games run by the DJ and MC!
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RSVP
Kindly reply by May 29th, 2027
RSVP Here- 1Search for your name exactly as it appears on your invitation
- 2Respond for each person in your party, one at a time
- 3Answer a few quick questions and submit at the end
A few notes about the RSVP form:
- If your invitation includes a guest whose name we don't have yet, tap the pencil icon to add their name, then respond for them as usual.
- Plans change! You can update your response anytime before May 29th, 2027.
- If you share a phone number or email for updates, we'll use it sparingly, and you can ask to be removed anytime.
- Having trouble? Call or text us at (585) 472-4306.
- We used a third party application for the form, which made us "create" a website. The site you are on now is our actual site.
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